INFORMED, NOT ALARMED – What Parents Need to Navigate Digital Puberty

  • Simple tips for talking about sexting, porn, and online dangers like dick pics and cybergrooming.
  • Easy-to-understand facts and research on youth sexuality.

For more sexual media literacy for everyone!

Over 80% of 12-year-olds now have their own smartphones, giving them access to the internet where they inevitably encounter sexual content. Whether it's intentional exploration of porn, first attempts at sexting, or unwanted exposure in group chats or online gaming, this book provides parents and caregivers with practical advice on how to guide children and teens in navigating sexual media. It answers pressing questions: What online risks does my child face? How can I start a conversation about porn? How can I protect my child from cyber grooming and deepfakes? How can I encourage responsible behavior with images and data while respecting boundaries?

Sexual educator Madita Oeming offers research-based insights and practical examples for a confident, informed approach to handling topics like porn, sexting, and more.

"One of Germany's most prominent voices for a calmer approach to porn." Der Spiegel

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  • Publisher: Rowohlt Polaris
  • Release: 27.01.2026
  • ISBN: 978-3-499-01662-2
  • 240 Pages
  • Author: Madita Oeming

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Madita Oeming

Madita Oeming , born in 1986, is an independent porn researcher. She conducts research, teaches, lectures, discusses, and publishes on the subject of pornography from a cultural studies perspective. As a sex-positive feminist and advocate for sexual pleasure, she acts as a bridge between academia, the porn industry, and the general public. Through her fearless communication, she has become an established expert on porn in the German media landscape. Her mission is to promote knowledge over stigma.